The Answer

The Rev. Dr. Skip Ferguson

Manassas Presbyterian Church

Manassas, Virginia

November 17, 2013

The Answer

Selected Texts

Who among us, anyone over the age of, say 20,

would be willing to go through adolescence again?

I don’t think there is a more difficult, stress-filled time of life

than those years between the ages of 12 and 18,

that time when boys become young men,

and girls become young women.

Adolescence is a journey of both promise and pain,

excitement and anguish.

Our high schoolers reminded us of that last week,

with moving, inspiring, and poignant words

that spoke of the teen years as a time of growth and wonder,

accompanied with all too many moments of

anguish, loneliness and hopelessness.

The words we heard took us through dark tunnels of despair,

but we found our way, as they did,

to hope and light,

to life and love through faith,

faith in God through Jesus Christ.

“Do not fear, for I am with you,”

God says through the prophet Isaiah.

“I have redeemed you.

I have called you by name,

you are mine.

You are precious,

and honored,

and I love you.”

(Isaiah 43)

These are God’s words to us that can carry us

through the most difficult times.

These are words that can

guide a young person through adolescence;

that can guide a twenty-something on the rocky road

of launching a career;

that can guide a forty-something through the daily struggles

that come with juggling work and family,

caring for parents as well as for children.

They are words that remind us of the promise God makes

to all God’s children,

the underneath each of us are the everlasting,

ever-loving arms of God.

They are words that can keep us

from crumbling into self-doubt,

or even the self-loathing

that seems to be part of adolescence

when a mean girl, a nasty boy,

a bullying woman,

a snide man sneers,

“what’s wrong with you?”

If someone were to ask that of me,

I’d be quick to rattle off a list starting with,

“My hair is thinning,

my waist is expanding,

I actually like broccoli,

and I never really got “Breaking Bad.”

We all have our responses to that cutting question:

“I’m not tall enough,

I’m not smart enough,

I’m not athletic enough,

I’m not good looking enough,

I’m not popular enough,

I’m not rich enough.”

But the good news for us as children of God,

as followers of Christ,

the good news our high schoolers reminded us of

is that even after we’ve run through our list,

after we’ve said,

“I’m not this enough or that enough,

we have an answer,

the perfect answer:

“I am enough.

I am enough.”

“I am enough,”

for God is with me,

God has called me by name.

I am precious,

and honored,

and loved.

Even with my thinning hair

and my expanding waistline;

even if I am not tall enough,

or athletic enough,

or rich enough,

I am enough.

The world is filled with mean, nasty people,

bullies, who deep down are cowards,

whose insecurity leads them to

try to build themselves up

by tearing other people down.

We learn defensive mechanisms against these people

very early on.

We try to be cool, try to be part of group,

try to reshape and remake ourselves to fit in,

or, at the very least, not stand out.

What life teaches us, though, is that

only the movie character Ferris Bueller

fits in with everybody;

as the school secretary told the dean of students,

“The sportos, the motorheads, the geeks,

dweebies, the brains …

they all adore him.

They think he’s a righteous dude.”

The rest of us learn that there will always be people

who will think we somehow

fall short of the standard they’ve set,

that we don’t measure up,

that something is wrong with us,

that we are not enough.

But we are.

I am enough,

you are enough.

The words of the psalmist reinforces,

that we are wonderfully made,

every one of us.

(Psalm 139:14)

I am wonderfully made!

You are wonderfully made!

Go ahead, say it:  “I am wonderfully made.”

Say it again, “I am wonderfully made.”

“I have called you by name,” says the Lord.

“You are mine.”

“Do not fear.”

“I have redeemed you.”

“You are mine.”

“You are wonderfully made.”

Are the hairs on the back of your head tingling?

Doesn’t it feel wonderful?

You are enough.

It doesn’t matter whether you are the funniest,

the coolest,

the most popular,

the thinnest,

the prettiest,

the smartest.

Yes, life can be so difficult, so challenging,

so stressful,

and at times, just so thoroughly awful.

God may have made us,

called us,

redeemed us,

made us enough.

God may love us,

but that doesn’t mean we are not going to go through life

unscarred or unscared.

It is during adolescence that we begin to learn this lesson,

that life is filled with beauty and violence,

joy and sorrow,

health and disease,

and far too many cold, cruel,

uncaring, even vicious people.

We learn that life is often unfair,

and that life is often filled with pain.

We learn, or at least we hope we learn

that suffering is part of life,

something that happens,

not something that God does to us,

not something that happens because we grew weak in faith.

It just happens.

We may never understand why,

even with Job-like persistent and insistent “whys”

lifted up to God.  

Our Lord himself suffered,

suffered long before he was nailed to the cross.

He suffered barbs and taunts not just from

the leaders of the religious community –

the respected priests, scribes, and scholars of the Temple,

but even from members of his hometown of Nazareth.

How many may have listened to what Jesus had to say,

and thought to themselves,

 perhaps even said to others,

“what’s wrong with him?”

Anne Lamott has written a new book entitled Stitches;

it is subtitled, “a handbook on meaning, hope and repair”.

In her wonderfully earthy, lively, and deeply faithful way,

she reminds us that suffering is part of life,

even for people of great faith.

She reminds us that simply living life,

going through each day, will take its toll,

cause ordinary wear and tear,

there will times of trouble, challenge

sadness, fear, anguish, even catastrophe,

times that will tear at the very fabric of our lives.

I’ve lived through more than 21,000 days,

and many of those days have been extraordinary,

rich and full, the sun shining brightly in my life.

Other days have been howling and tempestuous,

leaving me feeling like I was in a small boat

caught in a roiling sea.

The worst though, have been those days

when it seemed like a thick gray fog had rolled in

smothering everything,

the world enveloped in silence,

as though everything had ground to a halt.

I’ve learned through those difficult times

that God will always lead me,

guide me back to light and life,

restore me to wholeness,

stitch the tears,

repair the fabric of my life torn by

whatever life may have thrown at me

I may bear the scars of 21,000 days

but still, I am wonderfully made,

and I still know whose I am,

the One who has called me by name.

It is here in this place, this body of Christ,

that we help one another learn these life lessons.

Nurturing one another in hope is foundational

to our calling as brothers and sisters in Christ.

That’s not to say that this church or any other church

is free from snide or mean or judgmental comments.

Christians can be very mean,

Christians are often a little too good at bullying.

But if we work at trying to live as our Lord calls us to live,

if we work at living love,

if we are attentive to Paul’s words,

Let all things be done for building up

(1 Corinthians 14:26)

then we will also help one another

through the rough patches,

the crises,

the pain,

the suffering.

We’ll help one another of all ages

learn to walk through life unconcerned with the question

“what’s wrong with you”

because we’ve got the answer:

we are wonderfully made,

loved,

honored,

redeemed.

We can walk through adolescence,

early adulthood,

middle age,

the autumn years,

and our twilight with hope,

listening to God’s joyous song

written just for us:

The sun shall no longer be
   your light by day,
nor for brightness shall the moon
   give light to you by night;
but the Lord will be your everlasting light,
   and your God will be your glory.
Your sun shall no more go down,
   or your moon withdraw itself;
for the Lord will be your everlasting light,

Be glad and rejoice forever….

(Isaiah 60:19-20; 65:18)

AMEN